Update: Kellum Branch

The ancestors have favor over me on this short unstructured road trip. I had the pleasure of meeting 2 a niece and nephew of my grandmother Pebaleader. They weren't able to tell me much, but I was able to give them some information along with reconnected them to my aunt. The nephew was eager and willing to take a DNA test to further assist with my research! Tomorrow I will be visiting with another niece and nephew. It appears that the niece and her husband may be able to give me additional information and possibly some pictures. I am going to keep my fingers crossed that she will also be willing to take the DNA test. I am asking that the ancestors be a guiding light so that more information can be obtained to advance the research on the Kellum and Stitt lines. Feeling the love of the ancestors.

Pebaleader Kellum Stitt Update

I connected to with another person who is also researching Grandma Peb. I am not sure of their relationship as they are vague in our communication. What I do know is the person is part of the LDS church and lives in Utah. This leads me to believe that this person is Caucasian. This is not a problem, but would direct me to connecting w/ the inevitable white ancestors. I am hoping to be able to speak to the person on the phone rather than through messenger. This would be better for me to connect the dots. Keeping my fingers crossed and asking the ancestors to do what they do to make this happen. Patiently and anxiously waiting.

"I come bringing the gifts my ancestors gave. I am the dream, the hope of a slave." Maya Angelou

Daddy' Presence

Watching the movie "Mr. Church" I have discovered a little more about who you were. Like him you had a turbulent childhood that you rarely spoke of. In fact the only memories you shared were about big Mamma and Aunt Anna. Everything else was packed away. Your childhood haunted you throughout your adulthood. I saw your battle throughout your marriage to my mom and was not able to understand. Rightfully so because I was a child. The scars left me ultimately impacted our relationship as well as my perspective of you for many years. That changed when my mom and Mr. H. got involved. He demanded me to look at you from a different perspective. For that I will forever be grateful. Similar to Mr. Church in the movie you transformed your hurt and pain into steps for you to be a better man. This was evident in how involved you were in the community. Yet, those old wounds still remained an albatross that followed you like a shadow.

Things began to change for you and I when I moved back home. Without either one of us realizing it we were in the process of a transformation. You were able to finally begin to break the chains that were many years old and I was able to see you through a clear lens of appreciation. Our foundation was being rebuilt through a mutual agreement sealed in silence. Though the lost years  could never be regained we were okay with starting over not knowing that those years prior would have no consequences on the future. Through your silence you taught me and your grandchildren many lessons. With your embellished stories were always underlined with little snippets of you that we hold dear to our hearts. These little gems are actually the road map for me to get to know who you were. It is funny how your presences shows up and further lets me know that you have always loved me. Deep down inside you were still that lost little boy from Portsmouth still trying to find your way. As I told you a few years before your death, time heals all wounds. Daddy you are no longer lost and damaged. You overcame all that hurt and pain and have bridged the gap between you and I. During the process of us rebuilding our father daughter relationship, you were the father figure for your grandchildren when they needed one the most. Though you were not in a position  to be there for me as a little girl, God placed someone to temporarily take your place. Though Mr. H. was what was needed, he never nor could he ever take your place. You will forever be my daddy! Thank you for making your presences known when I am missing you.

Pebaleader Kellum Stitt Update

To my surprise as I was taking a much needed break from school work, I discovered another individual researching Grandma Pebaleader Kellum! With great excitement I went to the tree and sure enough the information was the same as the information I have been able to confirm. I am not sure of the family connection this individual has, but I am very curious. I sent a message introducing myself and giving a brief overview of my connection to Pebaleader. The individual did respond to my message, but was not in a position to speak on their research.  I thought for sure that they would have gotten back to me by now. I am equally curious as the individual conducting the research was from the LDS church. My experience with individuals of this faith is that they have a thirst for piecing their family histories together. I am waiting anxiously to speak to them and to hopefully advance my research and knowledge on the Kellum line. Ironically the researcher's father is from North Carolina. Sending my request to the ancestors to lead the way and to do some encouraging so I have the opportunity to fully explore this avenue. Something tells me that I may have hit a very rich information highway. Right now I must sit tight and wait!

Carefully Sharing

I would love to one day be able to help with getting the family together for a family reunion. That looks like it is not feasible for a variety of reasons. However, there is more than one way to skin a cat! Having small presentations to go over the research I have been conducting will be a start. It is imperative that those that have helped with this labor of love be able to see the fruits of their participation. This would be my way of thanking them as well as encourage more dialogue in a structured small setting. It is my goal to bring the family together, bridge gaps, and be the conduit for re-connection of the family. This may be a more appropriate approach to ensure that great care is being taken to any sensitive information and/or events that may have occurred. The one thing I have learned during this journey of love is that the ancestors should be respected and their stories should be presented with the most love and respect so that their lives are represented authentically. This is my charge that I have gladly taken on with love and the upmost respect.

Getting Closer to Grandma Pebaleader

During the semester I rarely do any research. I take this time to focus on my studies so that when I come back to my research my mind is cleared. Well for some reason I went to ancestry and noticed I had a hint connected to you. I was surprised to say the least because it appeared that all avenues to gaining more knowledge about you had dried up. It appears I have discovered someone researching the wife of your brother Charles who was married to Mary Evans. I reached out to the individual and am waiting to speak to them sometime next week. I am excited to get to know you and Uncle Charles more.

 Just know that I am committed to stitching the quilt of your life together. The memories that Sylvia and Molly shared with me increases my curiosity. I learned from them that my son inherited his eye color from you. No one else in the family that I know of has the greyish green eye color. I was amazed at their description of you. I am hoping that I will be able to obtain a picture of you one day along with finding out why you changed your name. In any event I am happy that you and the other ancestors are orchestrating clues for me. I thank you and will continue to honor and represent your lives honestly. Sending much love to your memory.